“ANNEfazed
through it all”
SunStar Davao, Nov. 2, 2019
It was a pilot’s wife’s ultimate nightmare.
In the late afternoon of February 4, 1994,
tragedy struck when 23-year-old Capt. Jacinto Rafael “Boompie” de Borja crashed
his single-engine four-seater aircraft at Resa Bay within the Moro Gulf in
Cotabato.
“Part of me died with him that day,” recalls
his widow Antonette Bernadith “Anne” Feo. Like Boompie, she was only 23 years
old then.
Boompie and Anne were high school sweethearts from
Tagum City, Davao del Norte. Both blessed with good looks, charming
personalities, and successful careers, many looked up to them as their ‘couple
goals’. Anne belonged to Club Pen ’91 as one of the in-house models of
Penshoppe. Her first national TV commercial for the iconic brand was a big hit
in the ‘90s.
“The irony of fate is such that one so young,
full of promise, with boundless energy and ambition, suddenly disappeared. In
the midst of grief, I was tempted to question what seemed to be the most unfair
and cruel turn of events in my life,” recalls Anne, an AB Mass Communications
graduate from Ateneo de Davao University.
Left to take care of their 8-month-old baby
Ryan James de Borja, Anne eventually learned to give her complete confidence in
the Lord. “It’s only through Him that I will understand the purpose of the
things I was made to endure,” she reflects.
Picking up the pieces
“It was difficult, at first, picking up the
pieces again,” Anne admits. “I am just thankful that I had a solid support
system. My family was awesome during those trying times,” she says gratefully.
To provide comfortably for her son, Anne applied
as a flight attendant of Saudi Arabian Airlines based in Jeddah. Some found it
ironic that a young widow who lost her husband through a plane crash chose to
work in the same industry. “I wanted to get over the trauma of what happened to
Boompie,” Anne explains. Her stint as an F.A. only lasted for a year, though,
because she realized that she spent most of her salary and savings on expensive
long-distance calls to her son whom she missed dearly.
Back in the Philippines, Anne thought that it
would be hard for her to fall in love again because she married her soul mate. But,
by some twist of fate, love found its way a second time. Anne re-married and
was blessed with another son, Miguel Antonio Maningo. Sadly, the union lasted
only for 10 years due to differences and trust issues. Alas, Anne bravely
embraced the life of a single mom once more.
“As a single mom, I’ve found an incredible
source of independence and strength in my situation. The best thing I could
do for my boys was to show them how to be strong and resourceful individuals,”
Anne boldly declares.
Aja!
Through the years, Anne tirelessly worked as a marketing executive; fashion consultant
who specialized in modeling workshops and personality development; opened ‘Butik’,
an online boutique selling clothes, bags, shoes, and accessories for women;
became an endorser for Griño Dental Inc. Beautederm Corporation, and Promag 300;
and ventured into the homemade gourmet business with her bottled BinagoongANNE.
In spite of her busy schedule, she also earned her second degree, this time, in
BS Nursing from Saint Mary’s College in San Juan.
The hardworking mom
also continued being a freelance model for print/TV ads for top brands such
as Chowking, Jollibee Delivery, Pediasure Plus, BDO, Nescafe Classic, Tempra,
Rebisco, Air 21, Avida, PLDT, Del Monte, among many others.
She likewise found herself acting in front of
the camera, one day, when a good friend of hers from the TVC industry asked if
she wanted to give showbiz a try. The self-declared “Probinsyana at Heart”
landed hosting and acting roles in teleseryes, movies, and iWant TV series like
“Be Careful With My Heart”, “Malaala Mo Kaya”,
“Nathaniel”, “Ipaglaban Mo”, “Wansapanataym”, “FPJ’s Ang Probinsyano”, “Wild
Flower”, “The General’s Daughter”, to name a few.
“So far, I consider
the role of Nanay Helen, the paralyzed/comatose mom of JC de Vera in “The
General’s Daughter” as the most memorable. I enjoyed playing a character that
shocked people, had substance, and touched people’s hearts,” she fondly
reminisces.
The best is yet to come
“Moving on with life after a loss may be one of
the hardest challenges that many of us face. Always keep the faith, pray hard,
acknowledge the pain, and share your feelings with family and friends while
managing to hold yourself with grace, poise, and class,” Anne advises.
Despite countless trials, Anne maintained her
attitude of gratitude. “I welcomed gratitude in tough times. I always noticed
the things that were still working. Gratitude made my days brighter. It became my coping strategy,” she reveals.
Eldest son Ryan (right), now 26, is currently a
Business Development Manager of a US-based company while youngest Miguel (left), 21,
is graduating soon with a double major in Diplomacy and International Relations
and English Literature from the Ateneo de Manila University.
Nowadays, Anne tries not to worry too much
about the future because she knows that great things are yet to come. “Yes, I
have dreams but there are so many things that I have no control over. I have
learned to trust and get the most out of this life my Creator has given me!”, enthuses
the multi-faceted mom who is ANNEfazed through it all.
Special
thanks to Anne Feo for the photos on this page. E-mail the author at
mom.about.town.dvo@gmail.com. To view more photos, please visit http://momabouttowndavao.blogspot.com/.
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